Question from Road: Family Doesn’t Believe You?

Great and important question! This question partially speaks to the lingering cultural problems in med-mal. It’s all about credibility, or lack thereof. I’m sorry, but all those years of deny & defend have led the general public to believe doctors, nurses, and hospitals cover up mistakes. It’s true! How many times have we heard disclosure stories where the patient/family is told the hospital will investigate, the patient/family thinks the whitewash job is coming, but then they are really surprised and literally blown away when they receive the truth? This is also why I have told our readers time and again when conducting an investigation and that investigation is pointing to no mistake, no error, you better have independent reviewers confirming your findings so that when you report to the patient/family you are believable/credible, because, again, the public is culturally preconditioned to believe that hospitals & doctors cover up and lie post-event. It’s all about credibilty!

So, what do you do?

Don’t get defensive, don’t start saying things like “no” and “that’s not happening,” but, instead, focus on things you can do and shift the conversation post-event to this direction.

First, be empathetic! And being empathetic means more than saying sorry. It’s also means body language and listening. Really listen, and show it!

Second, I’ve always told our audiences to be date/time specific by saying things like “We are investigating what happened, and we will report back to you tomorrow at 2pm.” Now, you may have nothing new or definitive to report at 2pm tomorrow, but you can at least touch base, tell the patient/family what you have been doing, and see how they are doing and what additional help they might need…and finish that conversation by stating when you will meet again. This process of touching base and checking in begins to re-build credibility with the patient/family that is often lacking post-event. Going forward, we say to touch base at least once per week during the investigative process….stay in touch with the patient/family. Keep communication lines open. It’s about credibility!

Finally, we really encourage you to focus on customer service elements in those initial post-event conversations. You and your staff probably will not have all the answers why the surgery did not work and Mom is in the ICU, but you can offer food, transporation, lodging, phone calls, and other customer service elements! These important gestures help shift the conversation to what you can do, and, again, re-build credibility with patients and families.

Need disclosure training? How about disclosure consulting to help with the formation of your disclosure policy and program? You’ve come to the right place! Call Sorry Works! today at 618-559- 8168 or e-mail us at doug@sorryworks.net.

Sincerely,

- Doug